Standing Up For Yourself

Are you a prisoner of what your partner thinks of you? If you are so attached to what your partner thinks of you, you’ll take everything personally and not know how you feel about yourself. You cannot answer your question, “How to save my relationship?” if you depend on the approval of your partner to define your every thought and action. Passion will not be able to flourish.

You’ll want that unending approval when you feel your partner is more important than you are. You have to be vigilant that your relationship with your partner does not become more important than your relationship with yourself.

When this happens, and it happens in all long-term relationships, these are the only options open to you:

• Allow your partner to consume you.
• Suffocate your partner.
• Emotionally and/or physically withdraw from your partner.

Or

• Stand up FOR yourself to move your relationship forward.

Your relationship is in trouble if you can’t stand up for YOU, which doesn’t mean against your partner. When two partners know who they are and aren’t afraid of expressing themselves to each other – this is how to save a relationship.

If you feel solid about who you are, you’ll dare to try something new in the bedroom. If you feel weak, you won’t risk being disapproved of by your partner.

Your capacity for passion equals your capacity for personal development. Everyone talks about rekindling, reigniting passion. What that means is growing yourself up, taking the stand to say, “I love you and this is who I am.” This is how to save your relationship – now and in the future.

After standing up FOR myself, and my husband doing the same, our marriage deepened more than ever. It took an almost-divorce and 25 years to get there, but it did happen. It can happen for you sooner. That’s why I wrote this blog!

This marriage cartoon helps remind me that the world doesn’t revolve around me except in my own mind.