One of the most powerful exercises that I introduce my students to is Quick-Writes. They always help when a student is stuck – on any topic. If you are asking the question, “How to save my relationship?” this fast and effective exercise will help you find some answers.
What are Quick-Writes?
These mini stream-of-consciousness writings are profound. Take any question or sentence completion that you’re interested in and write nonstop about it for a couple of minutes — not more than 5. Set a timer. 2 minutes can do the trick.
Don’t censor what you are writing. Some of what you write might be weird or off topic. Just keep going, writing down whatever comes to mind. Don’t edit. Don’t scratch out. Don’t worry about your penmanship or spelling mistakes. Don’t take your pen off the paper or stop typing at your computer. This flow will be revelatory when you need to know how to save a relationship.
When you can’t think of something, just keep writing the question or sentence completion. If you have to write the same thing a dozen or more times before an idea comes to you, that’s fine. You’re tapping into your subconscious by writing more quickly than your conscious mind can process.
Reading your Quick-Writes out loud to yourself afterwards can be an additional way to access your inner self. You can review your writing right away or wait until the next day. You don’t have to share them with anyone else, unless you want to.
Quick-Writes have nothing to do with whether you identify with being a good or bad writer. Writing fast creates a flow that helps access your creative problem-solving imagination. Discovering your own inner treasure trove will provide you with answers to how to save your relationship.
Set a timer for 2 minutes. Try one of the following as your quick-write: “What am I feeling about my communication with my partner?” You could also use this: ”My communication with my partner is…” Or, make up your own quick-write question or sentence completion. You’ll be amazed at the personal information you can get from such a simple and short exercise.*
Every time I get stuck, I use a Quick-Write. I can use any topic and write about it, and in 2 minutes be thinking about it in a different way. When my husband is driving me crazy and I don’t know why, a Quick-Write helps me check in with myself.
*Let me know how this has worked for you!
My name is Melissa Smith Baker. I am a relationship teacher, author, and speaker. My
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