Pornography can either help your sexual liberation or stunt it. It’s your responsibility to be aware of whether erotic material is enhancing or destroying your life; harming or saving your relationship.
The definition of pornography is erotic material whose main purpose is sexual or sensual stimulation and arousal. What’s wrong with that? Nothing, unless it leads you to humiliation, subjugation, degradation, denigration, sadism and/or abuse of yourself or others.
There are many different kinds of pornography that don’t have any of the above characteristics. Pornography is not necessarily toxic, but the industry keeps pushing the envelope in its attempt to normalize aberrant behavior.
Real live partners do not have sex like porn stars. Healthy partners are not nymphomaniacs who are always eager to participate in extreme practices. Orgasms are not always explosive; and bodies don’t have to be altered to have great sex in the exaggerated way that most porn actors feel they have to do in order to make a living.
Ultimately you have to be the one to determine whether you think pornography – soft-core, hard-core, or erotica — is worthwhile hearing, watching or reading or whether you want to incorporate it into your sex life at all. If you do indulge, be vigilant. 56% of divorces list pornography as one of the reasons they are in court, and it’s not always the guy who’s an addict. 30% of pornography consumers are women.
Are you capable of recognizing when you’ve gotten warped and fallen over the edge into pathology, into addiction?
Pornography is just like any other addiction. People ruin their lives because they cannot control their urges and impulses. A pornography compulsive habit can turn into an addiction that consumes you, wreaking havoc in your relationship and your world.
You might be surprised what you’re addicted to.