Porn has come out of the closet; it’s no longer wrapped in plain brown paper. It’s visible in our living rooms, readily available via the internet. It’s becoming more normalized because pornography is big business – 8 billion dollars in the US alone, 13 billion worldwide. A lot of people are obviously interested in pornland. Or, are they just being manipulated by a savvy industry that capitalizes on and exploits sexual repression?
Many people need help overcoming inhibitions and exploring sexuality, but is pornography the avenue to follow since it doesn’t depict or educate about sex in the real world? The safe sex practice of using condoms is rarely practiced in pornland. Porn fetishizes and objectifies the body and its parts. Porn says more is better, equating sex to fast food: Get it quickly; get it often, and never get satisfied.
There are countless questions to ask; one question only begets the next. The main question, however, is this: Has pornography spiced up and deepened your relationship or not? Has it helped you become sexually more adventurous or has it made you dissatisfied with your partner because he or she can’t measure up to your fantasies? Is porn hurting your relationship – or saving your relationship?
If you have become a voyeur, more interested in cyber-sex than making love with your real world partner, then maybe you’re an addict. 6% of the population is addicted to sex.
Where can we go to help us enhance our creative sexual imagination, bring meaning to our sex lives, and attain sexual health and balance? See below for some help in keeping the creative juices flowing.
What did you learn about having sex, not just about birth control and STDs? Since 1991 the Sinclair Institute has been an organization owned and run by sex therapists who create educational and feature films that are erotic. The actors are mostly real couples whose bodies have not been sculpted or enhanced. The Sinclair Institute has produced a sex educational series, and their feature films actually have story lines, classical music, and character development.