When you’re trying to find someone to date to possibly become your life partner, the best thing you can do is live your life to the fullest. So, relax and enjoy the following six parts of your life. Here are some questions to keep asking yourself –
- How do I take care of my health?
Daily hygiene? Exercise? Nutrition? Emotional health? No one else can take care of your health for you, and it takes a lot of time and effort. You are attractive to someone whom you first meet because you are healthy in body, mind, and soul. Maybe you’ll find a date at the health club where you exercise or at the market where you shop for food! - Do I have enough money to live well?
It doesn’t mean that you have to be rich, but you do need enough to pay your rent or mortgage, food, and have some extra money for fun activities. Don’t you want to be able to pay your own way for whatever activities you share on a date? You don’t want to feel obligated to someone you date to pay for you. - Do I enjoy my work?
If you don’t like your work, can you make it interesting or change jobs? If you don’t work for a living, do you go to school, volunteer, create art or music? What do you do to keep yourself engaged and excited about life? What you do in your life is what you’ll want to talk about to your date. If you don’t do anything, you won’t be that interesting. Maybe you’ll find a date where you work or serve the community! - How do I have fun?
Hobbies, adventures, concerts, plays, or football games? What can you share with your date? You could both go to a concert, if you both like music. You could go bowling, if you both bowl. You could play music together, if you both are musicians. Maybe you’ll find a date at the next sporting event or when you go out to see a drama production! - What relationships do I already enjoy?
Even if you don’t have a partner, do you have other relationships? Maybe with your relatives, your friends, your children, your colleagues, your neighbors, etc.?
All of these relationships prepare you for a romantic one. Maybe you’ll find a date through the relationships you already have – a friend of your cousin’s or a friend of friends! - What does my home look like?
No matter your socio-economic bracket, you can make your living space beautiful by keeping it clean and tidy and decorating it simply and colorfully. When you do meet someone, wouldn’t you like to take your date back to a place that you feel good about?
Maybe you’ll meet a date who lives in your neighborhood!
Create and live a life that you’re in love with. Then whether or not you meet someone to share it with, you’ll at least have had a marvelous time doing what you love to do.
How can you become proactive in the dating scene?
Don’t sit around waiting for someone. Start enhancing your life by looking closely at what you do to sustain good health, how you handle money, what you do in the world, how you have fun, what kind of relationships you have with friends and relatives, and how you relate to where you live. Creating the life that you want is how to get a date and how to save a relationship once you have one.
Don’t sit around waiting for someone. Start enhancing your life by looking closely at what you do to sustain good health, how you handle money, what you do in the world, how you have fun, what kind of relationships you have with friends and relatives, and how you relate to where you live. Creating the life that you want is how to get a date and how to save a relationship once you have one.
Read my blog on finding the ideal mate.
My name is Melissa Smith Baker. I am a relationship teacher, author, and speaker. My
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