Your Body Image

What do you think about your body? Do you have a positive or negative feeling about it? What you think about your body impacts the passion in your marriage and can help you answer the question, “How to save my relationship?”

Some people only look at their faces and disregard the fact that they have a body. Take a look at yourself naked or fully clothed in a full-length mirror as a totality of mind and body, your head connected to your trunk. Lovingly touch and lightly massage every part of who you are. What do you see?

Maybe you wear glasses. Maybe you only have one arm. Maybe you’re a model. Maybe you’re in a wheelchair. (One of the sexiest guys I know has legs that are paralyzed.) You won’t have a positive body image if you can’t accept that you have a body that serves you.

I didn’t get pregnant until I was 34, and for me, that was the first time I became conscious of my body, how it was changing and how beautiful it was, even though I was getting “fat”. I didn’t have much body consciousness before then. I rejoiced in the power of my body that was shape-shifting to nourish a new life. And after my son was born, I have continued to realize that my body needs to be taken care of, needs my love, and is helping save a relationship – namely my marriage.

It’s never too late to feel better about your body. And when you do, there’s a passion correlation. Sex gets better. Life gets better. You’re not hiding under the sheets anymore. Getting naked becomes playful and less inhibited. Passion in marriage, even after decades of being with your partner heightens as soon as you accept your body — big, little, corpulent, or thin. Your positive body image is how to save your relationship.

This marriage cartoon deals with body image. You’ve got a body, whether you like it or not, love it and it will love you back. How do you feel about your body?