Codependence can show up in your relationships in many ways. You can improve the health of your relationship if you do things that take care of yourself…
Are you taking care of yourself? All people have times of codependence on some level at varying times in their lives. Review this list and see where you stand in the codependent realm.
Taking care of yourself is your number one priority. You aren’t taking care of yourself if you’re overwhelmed, fearful, depressed, over-reacting, spending most of your time care-giving, needing others to make you feel okay, living a life of shoulds and have tos, having to have everything perfect, not able to make decisions, and so forth.
When dealing with a long-term, possibly life-threatening illness, get plenty of help, even if you think you don’t need it. When your ill partner has to conserve all of her/his energy for healing, you need to take of yourself, and you won’t be able to if you and the people who are helping are burning out.
Unresolved money issues are why most couples break up. Setting a weekly budget will solidify your relationship. Determine your weekly budget with your partner or on your own. Some couples don’t co-mingle their funds. Others combine their monies but are unable to agree on a figure for their budget.