When you say, “Men are just like that, or women are just like that”, you’re stereotyping, not telling the truth. When you make overly generalized pronouncements about your partner, you actually are dismissing him or her.
Recurring conflicts that revolve around the themes of kids, in-laws, money, and/or sex drive a long-term relationship to narrow, uncomfortable places. It’s normal to get stuck in these slot canyons. No two people will have exactly the same list of healthy ways of dealing with stress.
Feeling compromised? Feeling stuck? Even though you may go through feeling squeezed and even suffocated, you can do it while staying in your relationship. Understand these roller coaster feelings and know that these emotions are part of the relationship ride.
What happened to the ease of communication you had in your marriage when you first got together? Disagreements intensify the longer you’ve been with your partner because you become important to each other. Your partner means a great deal to you as years roll by because you’ve created a life together.