A friend of mine in her seventies whose husband died many years ago emailed me a list of her thoughts on what made she and her husband feel loved. Here are some of her pearls of wisdom – To honor your partner is to be reminded of your own worthiness. We all have conditions that […]
It’s Not About the Nail, is a humorous yet poignant, must-see YouTube that over 4 million viewers have been enjoying over the last few months. Why are droves of people so taken by it? We’re all oblivious to our own “nails” sticking out of our forehead that our partner can so clearly see. And when our partner says something that might help us get the “nail” out, we resist. We don’t want to listen.
No matter the spiritual, religious, or secular belief system, humans invariably ask the same questions about relationships: How do I know I’ve found the right partner? How can I be sure that I’m with THE ONE, the one and only for me?
When my husband and I have been apart for a while, we try to create a special something as a re-entry transition. Perhaps the easiest way would be to meet each other at a hotel and reconnect there, but there’s usually not enough time or money for this luxurious way of getting back into the groove.
My personal story illustrates what every couple is trying to manifest in their relationship – resiliency at all times, having the wherewithal to transform perceptions, not the situation. Resiliency is how to save your relationship.
The challenge is making an inner shift when you’re disillusioned — on a once-in-a-while getaway as well as on a daily basis at home.