A friend of mine in her seventies whose husband died many years ago emailed me a list of her thoughts on what made she and her husband feel loved. Here are some of her pearls of wisdom –
- To honor your partner is to be reminded of your own worthiness.
- We all have conditions that make loving us a hardship.
- Play with one another because shared foolishness deepens bonds.
Playing together seems to be the hardest for long-term partners to do. But play and laughter are the glue that sticks couples together. If you’re not having fun with your partner, do something right now to turn that around.
The older we get, the more the weight of our circumstances and the world dampen our spirits, but that load can be lightened by fun. Fun is healing. Fun is essential to fulfillment. Fun is not superfluous.
What can be better than nourishing yourself and your partner with joy? And, you can’t do that unless you stop being serious and get goofy and foolish and playful.
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