My husband and I have been on more than a hundred getaways over the last 35 years. These are not trips for sightseeing and tourism. These are purposeful romantic retreats. This kind of getaway is the answer to the question: “How to save my relationship?”
Most couples don’t go away often enough. Some aren’t willing to take the risk to do so because there are no guarantees everything will work out according to their expectations and fantasies. Finances are another excuse not to nurture your marriage, but there are getaways for every budget. What you have to be willing to do is carve out some uninterrupted time, away from parenting and work.
The only requirement is this: Focus on each other in whatever creative ways you decide. Think of activities that you can do together and only bring things you can share together. Here are some suggestions: books on sexuality, romantic comedy DVDs, dress-up costumes, dance CDs, sex toys, strip poker card games, collaborative art projects, etc.. Resist the temptation to get caught up watching TV or reading the newspaper unless it’s relevant to your getaway theme of nurturing your relationship. How to save a relationship is by making sure you pay a lot of attention to it!
Over-idealizing these trips is not the point of being together. My husband and I almost got divorced on one of our getaways. In our idyllic cabin on the coast, we argued and cried. It was an intimate moment that eventually ended in laughter, but not until we got back home.
Sometimes my husband and I don’t like the place we’ve picked to rent. For that reason, we bring colorful fabric, a tablecloth, candles, flowers, bubble bath, etc. That way any place we choose can be quickly transformed to our liking.
Go away as often as you can. Once a year is not enough. You need more time to ground your relationship as well as open up the possibilities for your dreams. Quality and quantity time count. The gift of a romantic getaway is priceless, worth more than any other material item you could buy for each other. Go away with your partner, even if it’s only as far as and as short as an overnight at your local hotel. Getaways are how to save your relationship.
Set a budget. If you can’t afford to go out for meals, take them with you and enjoy naked picnics on your bed. Have fun playing using your creative imagination.
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