When my husband and I have been apart for a while, we try to create a special something as a re-entry transition.
Perhaps the easiest way would be to meet each other at a hotel and reconnect there, but there’s usually not enough time or money for this luxurious way of getting back into the groove.
- One time when my husband returned from a trip, I prepared some of his favorite foods. I set the scene – decorating the dining room with flowers, candles, and a bottle of champagne. I wanted to wear something sexy and do something I’d never done before.As he walked in at midnight, I put on some music, grabbed a hula hoop, and met my husband at the door hooping. We laughed, danced, and talked until 3 AM.
Saving a relationship is also about being creative – even with something so mundane as returning home.
- Another time, my husband surprised me by hanging a silk canopy from the ceiling over our bed. The canopy was accented with dangling candle lanterns. It was so romantic that we kept this creative project up for years.
The only rule that my husband and I set up is this: The one who stays at home prepares a surprise, if he or she wants to. It’s never mandatory. Even though the one holding down the fort experiences more of the nitty gritty of daily life than the one who goes away and has fun on a vacation or a business trip, this arrangement works for us.
It’s not important that the welcome-home surprise be elaborate. What matters is the creative romantic factor. Even just a simple hot bath with some floating rose petals can do the trick.
Prepare something special and unique when you greet your partner after his/her next absence. Consider: If your partner reacts in a negative way or if something in your plans goes awry, can you be flexible and resilient?
What do you do to ease back into connection with your partner?