What makes your partner attractive to you? Is it really his or her physical beauty? The media keep telling us that attraction is about being young, thin, in good shape, etc. We think that we have to look a certain way in order to be sexy and our partner does, too. But, most of us don’t fit the criteria. Since we don’t meet the beauty requirements, does that mean we can’t have a thriving long-term relationship?
Relationships, especially long-term ones, always need infusions of out-of-the-ordinary. When my students ask me what they can do, I tell them to use their creative imagination, but sometimes they want some suggestions to jumpstart the process.
What’s in a name? Does it really matter how you refer to the person with whom you’re having sex and creating a life together? In the English language we don’t have any adequate words. They all fall short, even the ubiquitous word partner.
Martin Luther King, Jr. said, “Power without love is reckless and abusive and love without power is sentimental and anemic.” The ideal is empowered love. So how can you enjoy the synergy of the two in your relationship?
The perennial question for singles is — “How can I meet Mr. or Ms. Right if I can’t even get a date?” Singles of all ages are sick and tired of online dating sites. According to my eighty-year-old friend who has been married and single on and off throughout her life, the most important advice is to be proactive. What does that mean? Read her suggestions here.